What in the fuck is wrong with this pathetic need of trying to become a celebrity all of a sudden…

Yes, I've read nearly every book on the benefits of "status" and the positive effects it has on mental headspace and beneficial physical well-being.

What I'm pointing out here is extremely nuance.

Is it not so painfully obviously and yet is nobody else seeing what’s going on here?

There's been a tremendous shift in what personal development was to what it has become today.

In fact, it's going in a direction that going the completely opposite way from it's origins.

Why in the fuck is society so obsessed with being seen as a celebrity to fill in this empty void?

Quite literally a dog trying to bit it's own tale…

Enough is enough.

Let's address the elephant in the room.

NOTHING BUT A CRINGE-FEST

Everything is fucked with social media users today.

As society continues to shift towards a digital interaction landscape it’s enviable until you see "it."

Dudes trying to be perceived as "rich" and “famous” so they can weasel their way into where all the “cool kids” are.

Ladies constantly seeking attention from random strangers online to feel confident about themselves.

And you're telling me:

All this excess effort to feel a sense of significance for validation [by a stupid blue checkmark] whilst trying to be viewed as a somebody worth respect based on a follower count is where society is at today…

LOL

If you haven't realized by now.

Social media is fake.

Everything you see has been planned out for a single shot or has been carefully edited to make the "creator" be appeared as a somebody to hopefully gain more followers.

It’s to the point users would not dare post a single candid photo, instead they must take countless of photos to find that one “perfect” shot that doesn’t actually represent objective reality.

You know it’s getting bad when these “influencers” with fake tits preach about "self-acceptance" and these “rich” guys made the majority of their money by you guessed it… how to make money online.

How could I forget about the podcasters interviewing a nobody to be viewed as a somebody with hopes of their one liner "wisdom" clipped and become the next viral sensation… gone 5 seconds of “fame.”

All of this for what exactly?

For complete strangers who genuinely do not give a single fuck about you more than themselves to make you feel better about yourself for a few seconds…

Where the fuck has importance of developing internal based self-confidence disappeared too?

You see.

A high follower number and verified check mark is nothing but social proof.

But have you actually stopped to think who these "followers" are?

You can have a complete jackass do idiotic things to gain attention [while appealing to the majority of the average joes out there] then suddenly they've become an "influencer".

And you are telling me you're going to silence your inner voice and because you value others opinion higher than yourself?

Please wake the fuck up already.

Society has become so full of shit to the point now "self-help" has lost touch with reality for social validation [at the expense of actually developing a healthy sense of self].

Aspiring men have reached a point where they've become so feminine by chasing likes and attention for the sake of "business" through justifiable backwards rationalization.

Look homie: you can lie, as much as you want to yourself and everyone already you, but the real ones see right through the bullshit facade.

The ego stroke cycle is so vicious that their internal sense of identity cannot sustain itself completely independent of the external.

Since that time those dynamics have only accelerated due to social media [with the primal nature kicking in… it will not stop anytime soon].

With this next phase of social media developing, young men now aspire to be like the next james bond - dan bilzarian wannabe influencer hybrid who makes their money by teaching how to make money online.

A pattern that keeps repeating itself, generation after generation, by cutting corners when times actually get harder.

It's not about how much money you make, it's about the way you make your money that matter most.

This reveals EVERYTHING you need to know about an individual's character and moral compass.

And guess what?

There will be yet another "make money online" guru flashing a lavish lifestyle leading the blind and naive generations to come.

Hence why I will remain anonymous as I want to provide tangible value for contribution sake, not a hidden agenda to be perceived as another wannabe celebrity like figure that has fake altruistic persona with hidden agenda capitalistic gains.

HIGH SCHOOL REDEMPTION

People unconsciously try to relive the past, striving to make it “right” again.

During those teenage years is an extremely big clue to who you are.

You could have been the popular kid that everybody knew and loved or you could have been the kid that waited around in the bathroom stall during lunch due to social anxiety of being viewed as a loner with no friends like me.

Ever notice how the so called "cool kids" from high school thought they were confident - only to end up going to college and become a fish out of water…

Boom.

Their sense of self is completely gone because they no longer are in a familiar environment with allies that appeal to their ego.

This is why you often see the "cool kids" [or the want to be one of cool kids] scrambling to join a fraternity/sorority to viewed as popular.

What they thought was “confidence” was nothing more than a ego boost.

You see.

The internal based foundation of real confidence has not been developed nor given the opportunity to go through the growling developmental process.

I find it extremely interesting to find out about an individual’s high school experience.

I can't help but notice how they're unconsciously trying to make it right by their day to day actions in this weird way.

Everybody doesn’t seem to be conscious of it for some reason.

One particular individual stands out who was a nobody in high school.

Back then all he desired was to be one of the cool kids.

To this day his adolescence experience still runs his life.

He quite literally became a professional ass kisser to be perceived as one of the cool kids.

Social media has definitely helped him accomplish this no doubt [buying fake followers, making up a b.s. bio to be perceived as a “somebody”, etc.]

I can't help by notice one thing:

You're still a nobody.

You just have this narcissistic addiction to be validated as if you are a cool kid to the point you’ve made it your life purpose.

Your unresolved past is dictating your life.

And it's actually sad to see…

Me?

I've truly made peace with my past this year.

It's reached a point where I feel a euphoric liberation and complete freedom of fear i.e. people's opinions and thoughts of me.

Sure, I was never the most popular kid in high school and I never will be to this day.

I'm completely fine, but…

I did leverage the past to maximize my life experience to what it is today and will continue doing so well into the future.

Being someone that doesn't fit the mass majority to be considered "popular" does not bother me in the slightest.

In fact:

I embraced my individuality to the point I am the most popular within my diverse international network with an unconventional mixture of interests.

Ironically, not caring, focused on doing my own thing lead me here.

Analyzing the past, every time I tried to get along with everybody, I felt a little bit of my soul deteriorate inside because I unconsciously felt I was not being true to my authentic self.

Being on different adventures around the world with multiple inner circles - I saw a common theme:

Quality, not quantity always lead to the most fun moments and deeper social bonds that I know will last a lifetime.

You see.

When I entered a very competitive social scene, with heavy hitters from across the globe, me and one of my partner in crime naturally rose to the top in record time.

Why?

Because all these years we never gave a fuck about this pathetic excuse of a "status" game everyone plays and just focused on genuinely having a great time together [while inviting others we thought would add to our own fun].

Now I see all these wannabes offering "free consultations" disguised as sales calls trying to convince chumps to buy their course/program "how to be high status" to a bunch of idiots who think it will actually fill this empty void.

For most they seem to enjoy the buying experience that appeals to the “instant problem resolve” sensation.

True personal development to self-actualization is a fuckin' GRIND to complete the process.

Look.

Getting to know the guys - at the very top of life achievement - made me realize the one thing I don’t think many people have actually realized yet… maybe even never.

LASTING SUCCESS LEAVES CLUES

Me and a few of jiu-jitsu buddies decide to spar during sunset.

One friend - who has been on Drake's private jet, friends with Dana White and hung out with Justin Bieber during his time in LA - shows me his phone.

What I read made me widen my eyes.

I gave him this look, he simply nods, titling his head at the new guy and we just laugh together as we continue watching him spar the other training partner.

For the sake of privacy - I won't disclose anymore details about this individual - but let's make one thing clear:

He won life.

Fact: every single guy in history wished they had lived this guy's life deep down inside if they were being 100% honest.

After other encounters with this individual - something became evidently clear to me - I never learned anything like this from anybody I've ever met before.

Privacy was the real flex.

Did you ever consider being "that guy" has it’s down side?

Dealing with the bullshit of people wanting something from you all the damn time?

Wasting your time and energy for what exactly?

To only be perceived as higher status around bunch of value sucking leeches?

All that just to fill in this empty black hole of a void you have internally…

Why in the fuck are you giving your power away in the first place and allowing other's to single handedly dictate your sense of self?

A few months prior I partied with a billionaire.

Models, bottles, vip service the whole sha-bang.

What I discovered beneath the surface was just sad…

Imagine living in this reality:

Where people only use you for their self-benefit and actually do not give a single fuck about who you are outside of that very temporary transactional exchange.

Do you really want to question the hidden intentions of your inner circles?

You see.

The top everyone is aspiring to achieve today - where all the hoards of blind sheep being lead by the even more blind gurus trying to get there themselves - who actually have not made it there yet to realize these truths.

Here's what I'd strongly recommend for you to prevent wasting your life away on meaningless bullshit just for some feel good emotion that validates your lack of identity.

THE SECRET LIFE

How exactly do you live your life when nobody is watching?

Ponder on this deeply.

For your own sake:

You must to ensure meaningful existence.

Forget the cheap dopamine spikes from posting peak experiences trying to impress people online and falsely misrepresenting who you actually are and what a normal day in your life looks like.

What's your behavior like when zero attention is on you?

What are the things you would do, for only yourself, if you never got validation from external sources ever again.

Exploring this question will reveal the profound depths, what seems pointless to others, but not to your unique individuality as it speaks directly to your soul.

A common theme I notice amongst this cringe of a society is doing cool things trying to impress others to be view in a particular way.

Why the fuck does it even matter what others see in the first place?

How about you do exactly what you want to do, not having to document every single thing that spoils the moment, so you can enjoy the euphoric state of mind being deeply immersed in your individualistic way of life.

See you on the mats,

POJ

P.S. Here are highly recommended entries to go deeper this topic:

• Radical Authenticity: The Path of Unapologetic Self-Expression

• How To Have Freedom In A Unfree World: The Minimalist Way of Life

• How To Find Your True Authentic Self [In A World FLOODED With Copy Cats]