This newly discovered phenomenon strangely feels more significant than this superficial "instagram" life that gets so heavily promoted.

Imagine leaving New York City after spending the holidays with your loved ones, after being away from home whilst you've been adventuring across countless countries during your youthful twenties. You're laying down on a comfy bed, sipping champagne on a 16 hour first class flight to Seoul, South Korea… only to arrive in Bali moments later to reunite with a different set of best friends for the next set of exciting adventures that awaits.

The highs of high can't get any better.

And so I thought until now…

In a bizarre way, going through an experience like this right now, has me living four completely different lives simultaneous… while I continue to live my own life. Sounds bizarre right? There's a completely different side of life that's literally right there for you

Let's dive right into it.

THE HERO'S RETURN

You've 'been there, done that' and let me guess… searching for the next thing right?

The desire to travel the world [living in all these countries] no longer excites you as it once did years ago.

Going out to party no longer gives that same thrill has gotten boring.

And let's hope you didn't go done the ego filled rabbit hole of chasing validation from complete strangers online…

A common theme I continue to see countless of times is this right here:

The individual has done everything one has always wanted to do in life and now seeks the next thing that will provide more significance and meaning to their life.

Doesn't matter how superficial the accomplishment, everybody comes back to the same conclusion and yet only a few make the obvious next step.

You see.

Having a very diverse international network has gave me tremendous insight.

It doesn't matter where one comes from nor how much "success" one accumulates.

Every single one of them arrives at the same end point:

"Is this it?"

Often times the majority continue down the common path (with slight adjustments of course) due to years of habit and backwards rationalizing actions for comfort.

Being aware of this I made a drastically different choice I was never accustom to.

What I am discovering now is something quite remarkable.

Never in a million years would have predicted I make the decision to return home.

Without being too sided tracked: I felt like it was the last and final demon to slay in my personal development journey.

If you followed my journey long enough - I'll spar you the details as you already know the context so I can focus on addressing today's main idea.

Returning home the most obvious benefit comes from being with family.

For me specially, I've been investing my time and energy into four blood relatives in the ages of six, ten, sixteen and nineteen.

The strange bit?

I feel like I'm interacting with my past selves in these specific ages.

But instead of being naive and undirected, I have the "Gift of the Godess" from my dozen year experience living abroad to share with them.

Now is the time to offer these gifts back to the ones in need.

So far all of their individual progression has been tremendous.

It was very simple, but I gave the younger generations their #1 desire they have been deprived of for so long.

This one thing is what the other older generations wanted but never truly received despite it being a desperate need in life.

UNDIVIDED FOCUSED ATTENTION

Aligned presence of mind, body and soul.

That's all it takes [and what people want most] when interacting with another individual.

How do you feel during times you were speaking and the listener was distracted by their phone?

Look.

Multitasking is one of the biggest myths society has ever came up with.

Focus is singular, cannot be divided into separate units, without compromising tangible progress.

Your idea of multitasking is nothing but pinging between your multiple points of interests [at the expense of making tangible depth progress due to your lack of laser like focus].

For reasons like this is why you feel - scattered and all over the place - due to this nuance unconscious habit that negatively effects your overall behavior that determines your life outcomes.

Quite frankly it could be the very reason why you cannot break free and make a lasting change.

Whenever I observe my relatives interacting with their parents I cannot help but notice how mindfully absent they're.

Yes, physically they are present, but the mind is elsewhere.

If I can feel this - you bet your ass their kids will feel the same, but just not know how to put it into words due to their lack of experience…

Having gone through this experience myself as a child, I provide my relatives what I always wanted when I was once their age.

Undivided focused attention.

Simply doing this had made such a ripple effect into their lives and quite frankly I'm so excited for them to see what they do with the seeds I've planted within the garden of their own minds.

SIX YEAR OLD

Instead of blaming technology as to why it stunts children's growth I put time aside to play in their world to provide life lessons in a way they can find most valuable.

Through a simple card game of Uno - I spotted a major flaw…

My cousin was developing a extremely dark trait behind the scenes of his cute, adorable and extremely socially smart exterior.

He would camouflage his moves to secure a win at any means necessary.

More specifically that meant:

Lying and cheating at all cost just to win.

If he does it in this silly card game - what's really stopping him from doing it again elsewhere?

Noticing the style of communication 'lack of transparency and ability to call bullshit out when you first see it - I had to address this point immediately before it continues.

On the surface layer, he hates losing so much that he will do everything he can to win.

Of course, you can praise his willingness to win as that is an absolute crucial trait to success, but you must address the line that must not be crossed…

At the core root, my very young cousin identifies so heavily with the outcome that it ruins the progress portion of the journey.

Instead of diving so deep trying to explain to a six year old nuances of psychology.

I simply showed him a different way - without lying and cheating - learning from your mistakes so you feel even better when you make progress and win.

After a few hours, he saw the light for himself and said winning this way felt a lot better than his previous "tactics" to victory.

Slowly he will see:

The outcome does not determine who you are, but your willingness to respond while keeping your integrity in tact and winning as a byproduct.

TEN YEAR OLD

"Having an older brother is basically a cheat code."

I told my baby brother this on our way home after training jiu-jitsu one evening.

It's truly incredible to see how much kids are able to absorb from you - simply by being in your presence.

Their ability to learn literally behaves like a sponge.

He already has a level of self-discipline that far exceeds kids over his age.

Stoic laser like focus when it's an activity that naturally aligns with his interests.

All while enjoying his life as a hilariously funny ten year old kid.

With me stepping into help my mom raise my siblings - it has been quite the eye opening experience for me in ways I never imagined before.

Especially as someone that plans to have a family of his own one day.

You see.

Leading a family requires coordinating as a singular unit with nothing, but the best intentions for each other.

This leaves very little margin for error that would make a enjoyable experience into pure chaos.

This is where time management becomes absolutely vital to operate smoothly and maximize the experience spent together.

As you can imagine, coordinating with the younger generation is far from easy, but the scarce opportunity to instill a valuable life skill presented itself.

Simply by coordinating and showing him how I schedule my days - it is jaw dropping to see how much progress he has been made in the period of time together.

From always being last minute and forgetting things to texting me instructions what time to leave the house so we arrive on time… at ten years old.

What will this look like when he becomes 18? 21? 25?

SIXTEEN YEAR OLD

Every young teenage has this unconscious and delusional belief that the world revolves around us.

If this continues down the wrong path - a extremely rude eye opening experience will occur when it's time to enter the real world as a young adult.

Despite having to endure the attitude that comes with hormonal teenagers [and losing count how many times you end up biting your lip]…

It tests your patience and level of emotional maturity.

What really helps is acknowledging that that once was you at one point so it would be extremely unfair to set an unrealistic standard for another individual to live up to that is naive and extremely boxed in by a limited life experience.

However, in the most loving way, you must give these much needed reality checks before it grows out of control.

By simply sending a few texts [this is just how this generation communicates], calling out the situations and establishing boundaries - my sister intelligent navigates her hormones and auto-corrects her behavior without me having to raise my voice nor us entering a verbal argument.

The best part?

My sister offers to cook me food without me having to ask.

If you would have told me months ago that my teenage sister would actually respect my time - I would have laughed.

Remember: it's your responsibility when you see the opportunity present itself.

NINETEEN YEAR OLD

The critical time in a young adult's life that will - make or break - the trajectory of a life outcome.

During these times is when you feel the most lost in life.

You finally have the ability to think for yourself for the first time [assuming you have not gave into to this overwhelming sensation of ambiguity].

Luckily for my cousin, he is embarking down a path that very much resembles my own unique past experience.

From feeling anger after his father was not approving of his choice of career path [mine laughed and told me "be more realistic".]

Down to the actual technical know hows of architecting digital infrastructures, online marketing and paid advertising.

As you can imagine with an almost fully matured brain the speed of implementation is spectacular to observe.

Especially the amount of time and energy these particular age has at their expenditure.

REDEMPTION & BEYOND

What exactly happens when you actively listen to the younger generations?

Your presence of mind allows you to relive the past.

This right here is closest thing you will have to: rewriting your past again.

This is what you have the power to do for those you have influence over… and it's staring at you right in the face.

Realize this before it's too late as time is ticking…

Remember those times where you felt unbearable sensations of feeling lost without any direction.

Didn't feel nice did it?

What makes you think they are not going through the same experience right now?

Didn't you wish you had a hero in disguise come rescuing you in those times of need?

Remember: often times those how are suffering most are the most quiet.

You embarked on a journey and collected so many life lessons along the way.

Now is the time to see the real tangible benefit:

Positive influence.

Yes, on some degree, it felt incredible to produce lasting results for yourself, but none of it compare to this…

I promise you, if you plant the right seeds in others, and allow them to garden their own life - it will give you a sensation beyond words when you see what is growing once it breaches past the soil.

Every time I interact with each age bracket I can sense their progress by using my own journey as a gauger of where they are at.

I'm sure they too will reveal to me many things I never would have realized without their help.

As of right now, every single one of my relatives, is surpassing my younger self when I was their age… in record time.

A type of personal growth that is exponential and is only limited to how much time they invest into themselves and how they manage their time.

Given this unfair advantage - otherwise called "The Elixir of Life" when referring back to the image above:

What else would they accomplish - from this unfair advantage and treasures discovered from your unique journey?

THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING

Suffering becomes endurable the moment you discover the meaning behind the pain.

Nothing's worse than experiencing pain without a pay off.

Why else would you allow it to continue?

When you identify the meaning behind suffering is when it starts making sense.

This is exactly what you will experience through positive influence.

The treasures that you've collected begin flourishing into other people's lives.

It continues to get even better when you're invested in their journey as you watch from afar.

They win, you win… those they influence win.

A dent in the universe that ripple downs generations.

This nothing but a recent epiphany I had not too long ago.

Realizations like this make the hardships that much more enjoyable.

Knowing you have the unique ability to relieve mental suffering and guide them towards the right direction.

See ya on the mats,

POJ