Have you ever found it nearly impossible to 'let go'?

It seems as if the harder you try, the harder it becomes to obtain your targeted desire(s). Almost as if you have become the dog chasing after it's own tail — ever so close and yet it seems so far out of reach — frustration grows with every effort.

But what if I told you there was a practical solution that would immediately end this self-imposed hamster wheel that has history repeating itself...

In today's entry I'll share with you:

• How this invisible entity possesses you [it has an extremely high probably of destroying your life like it has millions today]

• The 'end all, be all' solution to finally put to rest all your meaningless suffering

• How to cut this repeated cycle dead in it's tracks step-by-step so it never happens to you ever again

And yes… it applies to every area of life you can imagine no matter who you are.

A DEADLY INVISIBLE ENTITY: MASTER OF SELF-SABOTAGE

Every personal development junkie knows…

"Success comes from failure and putting in the hard work."

But what if…

This exact success principle was the very reason why you would never obtain your main objective?

Attracted to a specific individual? Drop your priorities to pursue what you want… only to have created a chaotic emotional hurricane disrupting your life.

Need more money? Overcome every prospect objection to the point of being trapped with a disaster client for an amount that doesn't seem worth it in the end.

Want to level up your jiu-jitsu skillset? Treat every sparring round as if it were the black belt world finals - only to come out with a serious injury that jeopardizes your overall health progression [little to no physical activity for weeks/months].

We've all been there before in one way or another:

Making the same mistake twice.

And in that very moment - this invisible entity - comes sneaking through the back door.

Despite not achieving the outcome you desire, you double down on your efforts again… and again.

Attempts become desperate actions to see a tiny glimpse of hope:

1. Experiencing dopamine spikes that elevate your emotions temporarily

2. Waiting in an anxious state - highly anticipating the next response to make the unknown a tiny bit more known.

3. Going through high-highs, only for it to come all crashing down due to your paranoia and insecurities

4. repeat steps 1-3 for eternality: your unconscious behavior [which continues to produce these very negative life outcomes].

What does this all translate to?

Every action traps you into a corner the more you try.

Look.

To accept a reality [where all your times, energy, resources, etc,] and come up with not only nothing… but be worst off to where you originally started.

So you see - this invisible entity - ladies and gentlemen is called:

And damn is it an absolute bastard to deal with when you have no idea it is going on when it's staring right in front of your 24/7.

Continuing down this unconscious path, you collect more life references that prove to your untreated life trauma and strengthen negative self-beliefs.

It becomes your identity.

But there's hope…

Identity is in fact moldable and can be redesigned through your engineered self-concept.

There is absolute a living reality where your life gets better and better as time follow it's natural progression.

NOW THIS IS THE REAL FLEX

Instagram.

Living and breathing proof of modern society's surface layer "values" with an exponential growth curve of the blind leading the blind.

Without going into the narcissistic superficial details - I've "been there, done that" and had deep nuanced discussions with other individuals that went through similar life experiences.

And you know what's funny?

No matter the nationality, cultural upbringing, lifestyle design, interests, life philosophy, etc.

We come to the same conclusion:

Peace of mind trumps all.

Things that once gave you a literal 'high' become mundane and boring.

Your IG story that boosts your ego and perceived social status:

Flexing how you are friends with the Dj playing in front of hundreds to thousands at the high-end venue.

To the reshared story of you being surrounded by gorgeous models dying for your attention.

And let's not forget how you constantly check the analytics to see who saw it for the added ego boost...

All the way to the absolute euphoria finding out you broke a new daily sales record after jet skiing on the stunning Baltic seas.

Ah yes, this also includes those moments when you 'tapping' out higher belts trying to prove to your ego that you are "good".

You see.

I'm all for collecting peak experiences for the novelty, but there comes a point where the novelty absolutely will wear off.

If you want to go deeper on this topic definitely read: https://www.philosophyofjiu-jitsu.com/p/warning-do-not-prioritize-pleasure-over-the-pursuit-of-purpose

There's a point where you realize, no matter how great this feels, it came at a cost of other opportunities that life could have offered you.

This is exactly where you prioritize your peace of mind above everything else.

And based on my experiences…

This vanity way of life becomes unsustainable as it quickly squeezes the mainstream appeal part of life's juices [to the point where you become bored and experience the ever so familiar "unfulfilled" sensation].

The next preference becomes prioritizing the most important thing in the world:

You.

And as you can imagine - being evolutionary evolved primates - we have the cognitive superpower of the conscious mind that depend on social dynamics to survive… then add the nuances at play that take place in the realm of jiu-jitsu.

WILLINGNESS TO WALKAWAY

When you have the willingness to walkaway - you’ve made it.

You won.

Everything starts to click when you reach this absolutely life changing pivotal moment.

You have (re)discovered the confidence the you’ve always desired.

Nothing feels forced nor a fake facade because you have fully accepted the origin it's expressed from:

“Take it or leave it.
Because either way.
I will continue doing me anyways.
How would this time be any different?
It's worked very well for me this far so… why would I stop?”

As a mere byproduct you get exactly what you deserve with this frame of mind.

Chasing out of neediness and seeking validation shifts to a not trying paradigm that attracts everything that to what you are.

An ongoing Way of Life that continues to get better and better with the passage of time. The evidence reveals itself in the previous generation, who are still focused on mastering their craft despite their old age.

Actions that speak louder than anything that could be verbalized.

This is something absolutely nobody could ever take away from you.

But where does the vast majority fall short?

Desperation.

The mere word itself reeks of a level of neediness that repulses anyone that goes near it.

At it’s source these individuals try to get other people to fill it up instead of doing it by oneself.

Stop engaging in the behavior of desperate individual, you want to proactively focus your energy on filling up your cup so that you eventually be the overflowing cup [you have so much to offer] without actually trying because it has become a byproduct of your existence now.

When others enter your space, they feel elevated in ways never felt before because so many others are stuck in a paradigm of constant “trying to get” something with their hidden agenda.

Stop trying to force a square block into a circular hole - it'll never become a perfect match no matter how hard you try.

You are only wasting your time that is irreplaceable.

All that “the willingness to walkaway” really reveals is your level of confidence in yourself.

If you can’t walkaway…

Get back to work, there’s more work that needs to be done.

I promise you on my life that all the time invested will one day pay off.

See ya on the mats,

POJ