Have you ever felt like some people take you for granted?

At first things were exciting, but then it seemed like everything suddenly changed overnight. You know those moments where being in each other's company used to be enjoyable but somehow it has become dull to the point of having a negative effect on your relationship. As time passes, suddenly resentment slowly seeps in then passive aggressive tendencies came out…

Next thing you know:

You have a large emotional outburst [damaging the social connection] resulting in a relationship that has gone beyond repair.

It is my truth, the root cause of every single problem… stems from this one thing: miscommunicate. When both parties are unwilling to corporate, the best thing that can be done will be revealed to you in today's entry. You'll experience profound benefits into your life starting today (if not applied correctly, it will backfire in your face).

Now, let's dive right in.

THE HIGHEST DEMAND SENSATION

Every single human being throughout history secretly desires to be appreciated.

It is one of the highest primal demands next to the need for survival and reproduction.

To be appreciated means…

• Recognized as full of worth.

• Being grateful.

• To feel understood.

• A rise in value.

These connections is powerfully articulated by Dr. David Buss, a leading evolutionary psychologist, who explains:

And yet it hits you on an even deeper level that goes beyond both biology and the psychologically level, but enters the even more abstract energetic realm.

Personally: I do believe that "energy" and "vibe" is the closest measurable metric of the "soul" and "universe" that goes beyond human's very limited senses and scientific understanding like physics.

Take a look at this graph so you can have a better understanding of your emotions and how they're measured on the "energetic: vibe and frequency" level.

So what happens exactly when you are feeling the opposite of feeling appreciated?

You begin going down a path of a very 'low vibe, low frequency' headspace [attached to life's most undesirable outcomes].

You see.

The first step? Your pride gets hurt via your mind's identification to your ego.

The next step down is where anger arises and begins to boil…

Thirdly, the desire to be treated a specific manner starts [control what is outside outside your control].

Then next thing you've entered a downward spiral, rapidly ascending you down the lowest level of Shame because you were not proactive, but remained in a reactive state of mind to the situation.

This is a lot to absorb so I highly suggest you take a moment to ponder for a few minutes before continuing.

ALWAYS DO THE RIGHT THING

So you want to be appreciated in moments you feel unappreciated right?

After having changed your schedule around to cater to a particular individual's need - and do not get a simple "thank you" in return.

You assert a personal boundary for the second time [and yet this person says sorry once more] but does it again anyway without a care in the world…

Now it gets even trickier when you feel physically attached to said individual like if it were a family member.

You see.

There's a very simple step by step process to follow that will get you being appreciated again.

It ties in very nicely with my previous entries below:

• The Powerful SECRET TREASURES From Willingness To Walkaway

• Radical Authenticity: The Path of Unapologetic Self-Expression

• Overcome Loneliness In A Technological Driven Society Pushing Further Isolation

• Self-Discipline is the Essential Foundation of Your Life Outcome

• Never Underestimate The Power of Your Influence: How Your PRESENCE Changes The Trajectory of The Youth

• The Discipline of Saying NO: How Boundaries Dictate Your Life Outcomes

In those moments you begin to feel your "pride" get hit then start your ascend downwards towards "desire".

In THAT very moment…

Remain silent.

This sounds simple yet putting it into practice becomes extremely difficult task (especially when emotions are running high).

Look.

When emotionally charged - we often say things we will severely regret later - on top of the resentment boils beneath the surface layer.

For this very reason, stay silent and walkaway from the source that is triggering you to behave negatively.

Now while you are away and allowing time to do it's job:

You gain your rationale back instead of remaining in the highly chaotic irrational hurricane [where emotions run and could explode as if you through gasoline on top of fireworks].

Like the basic understanding of supply and demand.

With your absence, you will regain your value back because of the unavailability.

TALK MEANS NOTHING COMPARED TO THIS

Actions always speak louder than words.

Your absence literally shouts this in the most silent way possible.

During this period:

It is important you remain patient, continue being on a mission to improve your life circumstances, to actualize your most desired life outcomes.

While you are busy, there is another dynamic at play on the other side.

Your deafen silence leaves the other individual trying to figure out what had happened.

As a direct result of your lack of action - their self-awareness expands further [which is absolutely essential to become a better human being].

The individual explores all possibilities at their own doing, not your hidden agenda self-help project that nobody verbally signed up for.

The once unexplored territory enters the light of consciousness.

"What happened?" Encourages revisiting the past that holds critical golden nuggets to learn from.

"Where did I mess up?" Responsibility for actions and consequences that follow.

"Did I do something wrong to cause this happen?" Behavior correction.

Remember: the map is not the territory.

No matter how hard you try… you can never force another individual to do something against their own free will.

It's absolutely inhuman to try to control a free "soul" through manipulation.

No, silence and walking away, is absolutely not manipulation… you are living your life for you.

All your silence sub-communications is…

"I have better things to do than deal with this."

What are better things exactly?

Improving your damn life.

Get into peak form by training jiu-jitsu as if you are a black belt world champion.

Reading complex subjects so you can have a better grasp of reality.

Operating a business that will free you from answering to anybody.

Hanging out with your favorite people that the concept of time becomes completely irrelevant.

You know… like enjoying the passage of time.

THE RETURN

And what if you remain in a state of productivity while your away?

Whenever you cross paths with the individual again they will be reminded of your value and appreciate your presence… and more importantly:

The substantial improved of your self-worth which you NOW possess due to your productive nature.

This is how you get people to appreciate your presence.

And there's nothing better than this…

Being appreciated for just being the best you.

Literally everything life gives to you after that is just icing on the cake.

Remember this:

In times where you are not feeling appreciated - remove your presence for a period of time to improve yourself.

Your once unappreciated presence will regain it's value back and more by your lack of availability because you were busy improving your life for yourself and the individuals you allow to be apart of it all.

See ya on the mats,

POJ